I live in the Toronto Metro area, a very diverse, densely populated, modern, cosmopolitan city. As might be expected, the politics of the area’s population leans sharply left. And I have a vacation residence about two hundred miles south of here, in the Southern Tier of New York State. Addison is a small village of farms and other small and family businesses. There is a sizable Amish community. The politics here leans sharply right.
When I
drive down, I often turn on the radio and scan the am dial. There is quite a
bit of religious programming, a portion of political talk radio, and even some
stations that blend the two. Though I’ve been making this trip for eight years
now, I continue to be astonished that political ‘norms’ can differ so
completely over such a short geographical distance.
I met a
neighbor six years ago who has helped us to settle in and maintain our property.
And though we only have contact during the few short periods I’m down here
every year, I’d say that we’ve become good friends. We hang out a bit, share
meals and a beer, watch football and toke a little marijuana. We talk a lot,
about life and everything in it. We’re close together in age though otherwise
our life experiences have been very different.
Politics
has been a difficult topic for us however. We tend have opposite opinions on
just about any issue. So we’ve learned to tread carefully. We’ve had
discussions that have descended into shouted, emotional salvos flying back and
forth. And there have been many times, when on the brink of such, we’ve managed
to “agree to disagree” and to get off of the subject.
We both see
it as absolutely intolerable that the other side might prevail in the upcoming
election. He feels that liberals are destroying America and that Trump’s
reelection is essential to preventing its continuing slide. I feel that Trump
is destroying America and that his ousting is essential to prevent a continuing
slide. We both feel that a degree of armed revolt looms as a real possibility
if Trump loses, and that in some respects a state of Civil War already exists. I
think it’s fair to say that we both realize that his side is much better armed
and prepared to fight than mine (as was the case at the start of the Civil War
of the 1860s).
We both
recognize that it is precisely this – the increasing impossibility of political
opponents to even discuss matters civilly – that is at the core of America’s
current dysfunction. Actually, it goes beyond that. We seem unable to even agree
on the nature of the political universe that we share, or the challenges we
face.
This is
nothing new. For decades now, the abortion issue has been cast as a matter of
the sanctity of life by one side and as the right of women to own their own
bodies by the other. On the battlefield however, these positive values become
twisted into their negatives: one side is accused of murdering children and the
other of oppressing women, hateful charges on which there is no possibility of
compromise.
Similarly,
gun control devolves from a debate about the right to self-defense balanced
against the right to community safety, to a pitched battle opposing those who
are insensitive to the random murder of innocents to those insensitive to the
loss of personal liberty.
And it
keeps getting worse. Language itself is weaponized, and positive values are overtaken
by their shadows. Black Lives Matter is translated into White Lives Don’t, and
All Lives Matter is interpreted as Black Lives Don’t. Defund the Police becomes
Let Anarchy Prevail, and Law & Order becomes White Supremacy Forever.
Honest, serious debate becomes impossible when every word becomes a code word
for something else. Negotiation can never progress when the worst interpretation
of the other’s words becomes the only possible interpretation, when their most
feared intentions are seen as the inevitable objectives.
My neighbor
and I are at a kind of crossroads. It’s questionable whether our good rapport
will continue if we both see the other as bent on the destruction of the
country. What may save us is my certain knowledge that he wants things to be
better, despite the fact that he envisions a completely different path to
reaching better than I do. I hope that he knows the same about me. I know that
my life is better with him as a friend than it would be without him. I trust
that he feels the same.
Unfortunately,
I believe we’re at a point where California believes that the US would be a
better country without Alabama, Mississippi or Tennessee. And those states seem
convinced that it would be a blessing if California collapsed into the Pacific
tomorrow. How shall we overcome?
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